Reflecting

Good byes are an interesting thing. They can be casual and they can be sad. They can be flirty and they can be harsh. But it all depends on the relationship. Right now the good bye on my mind is one of the hard ones, the one where a close friend leaves. He's coming back, but it still hard. I'm happy for him because it's an exciting opportunity for him. But in a way, the person I know won't come back. He's going to be different. You may disagree, but it's true. He is going to grow as a person and there will be something new in his eye. I'm just sad that I won't be able to experience that with him, but sometimes we all need to go off on our own journey.

It makes me sad to know I can't call him up to hang out, but I am excited that he has been given this road in life. But this whole thing got me thinking about good byes in life. How often do we say good bye? How many of them heartfelt? How many of them are said with action more than words? Why are some easier than others? Do we really care, or is it a matter of the relationship? Why isn't every good bye hard? Why are some near impossible?

I got to know this guy pretty well in a period of a few month about a year ago. He was actually on his way over to Japan to be a missionary. He is one of the most easy going guys I've ever met and I wish my time with him was greater, but I knew from the beginning he wasn't going to be around much. So we kept in contact here and there, but as my life went on, and I'm sure his did too, I just didn't really follow up with him. Reflecting on this it has me thinking. Why is it so hard for me to let someone go, but when they're gone I never stay in touch. And I notice that I end up doing this to everyone.

So maybe this is why good byes are hard, because even though we say, 'keep in touch' that it never really pans out that way. Is that how life in general is, or is that just me? I know I can't be the only one. Let's face it, we are all wrapped up in the craziness of our lives. Time is a rare commodity. When we have any it gets swamped by the small things we put off.

Don't let the small things get in the way. Life is so big yet so short to let the small things get in the way. As hard or as easy as good byes can be, don't let them stop you. Cherish each of your friendships, and take what they have to offer, even if they are for a short period of time. Learn something new from each one, and go out an live. Friendship is an inspiring thing.

With that, cherish every moment before the good byes, and look forward to every moment after the hello. Each time is an exciting adventure.

Love ya Louie Bookout, have fun ya lil hum bucker. Can't wait for you to get back.